Monday, March 11, 2013

40 Days to a Stronger Marriage ~ Days 21 - 23

I have gotten so busy lately, I totally forgot to come here and blog before the weekend. I remembered yesterday. Being it was Sunday, I just decided to wait until today. I figured those of you who are following me would understand.

Today, in keeping with the Love Language theme, I want you to ask your husband to list 3 things you can do that will help him feel loved. Three things that you can do each day for him. Or at least strive for. Some days, not a thing gets done because we are so busy with the kids and the house. Those days we just need to take a deep breath and try again tomorrow. As is said, so often, on a message board I frequent, "Grace is for mama's too!"

Once upon a time, my husbands list looked like this:
1. Make sure you pray throughout the day.
2. Make the bed.
3. Clear a path through the toys before I come home, so I don't have to worry about stepping on them.

Not too demanding. All three things didn't happen every day. He still knew that I loved him. On the days that they did all happen, he felt loved too.

I don't want your husband to write a list of three very demanding tasks. Just three simple things that can be done daily. This is not to make sure we "know our place in the home." This is just a simple task to find out more ways we can show our husbands how much we love them.

I think this particular task speaks to me because I am an "Acts of Service" person. That is my love language. Physical touch is my husbands, so I have to make sure to fill that too.  I make sure to give him lots of hugs. I also make sure to touch his arm as I walk by, or rub his back. It really is fairly simple.

"She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle." Proverbs 31:27
Picture, taken by me, at Oakwood Lakes State Park in South Dakota.

Days 21 - 23
Ask your husband to make a list of three (attainable) things that you can do each day to help him feel loved. Then strive to do them, each day.

1 comment:

Erika ~ Prey Species @ said...

this is a simple yet so important post and one I often forget - it's so important sometimes to stop and ask what makes them feel loved rather than just charging ahead with what you think they interpret as love! thanks for this one :)